Mood Swings & Relationship Swings During Pregnancy

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Most pregnant women have some experience with mood swings, which are usually most intense in the first and third trimesters. Whatever their cause (e.g., hormonal shifts), mood swings can stress your partnership and relationship satisfaction.

While mood swings are, by all means, a normal part of pregnancy, it’s sometimes wise to seek professional help.

If mood swings are extreme, last more than a couple of weeks without relief, and/or have a significant negative impact on your ability to function, or on your partnership, consider speaking with a counselor, or ask your doctor for a referral.

In most instances, however, you and your spouse can work together to limit the impact of mood swings on your partnership. What follows are some ways to do so; as with anything, one size does not fit all. If one of these approaches doesn’t work for you or your spouse, move on or devise strategies of your own:

Educate & Normalize: Together, confirm how normal mood swings are during pregnancy. If you’re not familiar with the physical changes that contribute to them, read up on the topic, and encourage your spouse to do the same. In other words, educate yourselves about pregnancy mood swings, so you can normalize their occurrence. Doing so doesn’t negate their impact, but encourages you to perceive them as regular parts of the pregnancy process, instead of unwelcome intruders.

Make a Patience Pact: Like other pregnancy symptoms, mood swings ebb and flow. Agree to be patient with this part of the process, while reminding yourselves, and each other, of the endgame: your new baby. Of course, your moods might sometimes preclude you, or your spouse, from being tolerant. The idea isn’t to always be patient, but to recognize that, just as this is a waiting game for your bundle of joy to arrive, so too must you wait for challenging symptoms, like mood swings, to subside.

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  1. Avatar of Samantha Samantha says:

    I have mood swings BAD. It gets better than it will get worse. I haven’t figured out how to deal with the mood swings yet

  2. Avatar of LIZ says:

    i wasnt moody at all, tnx god

  3. Avatar of mommy nhoj mommy nhoj says:

    I am a cry-baby when I was pregnant. And yes, I can get mad in a snap. But hey, my husband said I am better when pregnant. Hahaha…

  4. Avatar of Brandi Brandi says:

    I have horrible horrible mood swings. One minute im happy and the next i am mad or sad. Im not really sure how to cope with all of my mood swings.

  5. Avatar of katrina katrina says:

    i feel like my mood swings are ruining my relationship what do i do? im 32 weeks and have a long way to go

  6. Avatar of sophia sophia says:

    I’m so moody I might as well be bipolar!

  7. Avatar of shayljohnson shayljohnson says:

    I don’t know what’s been wrong but I been having mood swing ofter, my husband doesn’t even know how to react.

  8. Avatar of jessica jessica says:

    I am totally guilty of mood swings but I think the worst part is that in my head I am justified !!

  9. Avatar of KT. S KT. S says:

    My third trimester I didn’t have any mood swings but found I was more apt to get irritated by things. That was the worse of it and a more intense sense of urgency to get things ready for my little girl.

  10. Avatar of Leah Leah says:

    My emotions are so topsy turfy that i cant figure out what i am feeling half the time much less sense a mood swing. My poor boyfriend deals with it well bless his heart

  11. Avatar of AleaRausch AleaRausch says:

    Most of the time now (@ 32wks) I just feel numb.

  12. Avatar of starla starla says:

    My mood swings have been so bad during my third trimester that I honestly feel like I didn’t want a baby. When honestly I really did. I feel so bad for thinking this way. Is this normal?

  13. Avatar of ambermccurry ambermccurry says:

    I didn’t really have mood swings during pregnancy; they seem to be worse now that I’m no longer pregnant.

  14. Avatar of michelle michelle says:

    Ugh, I’m guilty of mood swings and going off on people.

  15. Avatar of Phammom Phammom says:

    My husband is worse then I am with mood swings.

  16. Avatar of Dario Dario says:

    Got cussed out a couple out times already..

  17. Avatar of Kelsey Kelsey says:

    On my first pregnancy is didn’t have mood swing but the second pregnancy I did Nd alot of mood swing

  18. I didn’t really have mood swings during my pregnancy. It was my first pregnancy and it was easy and happy.

  19. Avatar of Marina Marina says:

    My mood swings are more me being happy one minute and the sad / crying / depressed next minute (especially when I think of baby not having grandparents because my parents and my husband parents passed away in past 4 yrs. Also my mommy and mom ( mother-in-law) not being there when I go into labor.)

  20. My husband would often say its my hormones so go and relax..lol

  21. omg sometimes my mood swings get so bad that i would just cry when I am done.

  22. Avatar of Allison Allison says:

    I’ve had my fair share of mood swings and I’m so glad that my fiance is patient with me. I generally can catch the I have shifted, but sometimes if I don’t realize it he’ll walk up and give me a giant hug until I feel better.

  23. Avatar of Katherine Katherine says:

    This last pregnancy is the only one I’ve had truly terrible mood swings during, the other two were just "normal" mood swings. My husband and I came up with a safe word for when I wasn’t catching myself during one of these so I could leave the room and collect myself a bit and come back, lol.

  24. Avatar of Ja Ja says:

    I get these mood swings bad… I am so glad my husband is very patient and loving that he deals with me well… I just get irritated fast which is so sad but I’m really working on it…. "just breathe" I have to remind myself and think positive!

  25. Avatar of Marilyn Marilyn says:

    Sometimes I get upset over the smallest things. For me, these mood swings have been going on since I’ve hit the last trimester. The first ones I was doing just fine.

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