How to Get Your Sex Drive Back
So, you have had a baby. For many women, this means that the sheer thought of sex or intimacy gives them the creeps. Even if you had an active and pleasurable sex life before pregnancy and childbirth, many things change afterwards.
Many men change their views on sexuality once they actually see a baby born, and this is normal.
Your hormones are wacky (to say the least), your body has changed, you might be breastfeeding, and chances are you are also very, very tired much of the time. Not to mention the fact that many women become mothers and suddenly feel awkward dressing up in their French Maid costumes, just to spice things up in the bedroom. The transition to motherhood definitely can take a toll on your sex drive and sex life. Unfortunately, many men don’t understand this – but there are things you can do to rev up your sex drive again.
First, give yourself a little time. If you are recovering from childbirth, you may not be up for sex just yet. Talk to your doctor and make sure to wait the recommended length of time.
Secondly, realize that many men change their views on sexuality once they actually see a baby born, and this is normal. Try to talk about the experience together. A few jokes here and there can definitely lighten the mood and erase some of the graphics. Realize that if you are breastfeeding, hormonal changes naturally reduce your sex drive. You may find that once you stop breastfeeding and regain a normal menstrual cycle, your sex drive will return to normal too.
What many people fail to realize is that resentment and anger can be huge factors for a reduced sex drive. If you are taking care of the baby most of the time, staying home on maternity leave (or you became a stay-at-home mom), and you feel that your partner is not stepping up to the plate, so to speak, you are going to feel resentful. This resentment will spill into the relationship and not make you feel like having sex at all.