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Hello! I am a little over 19 weeks pregnant with my first child, and I get to find out the gender next week! I am so excited to find out so that I know what to start calling him/her! I've had the names picked out for a few months...I was wondering, though, as to why some people wait to be surprised when the baby is born? I feel like the suspense would kill me, not to mention the pronoun confusion (he/she, him/her). And all the people telling me they have a feeling it's a boy are driving me nuts. I want to know for sure! So if you waited to be surprised, what was your reasoning?
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Did you find out the gender, or wait to be surprised?
I found out ASAP!63 Votes (84%)
I waited/am waiting to be surprised.12 Votes (16%)
I wanted to be surprised, but somebody let it slip!0 Votes
Answered: Re: Finding out the gender (vs. surprise)
I am finding out, I did with my son as well. I'm just the type of person who has to be able to plan to the last detail. I also hate surprises of any kind (bad experiences as a kid) and the worst is when you know there is a surprise and they just won't tell you...which is how I think of it with the baby. I also want my son to be able to start identifying with the baby and so we can build excitement.
I did the "chinese lunar" and it worked both with my two kids and this is my third pregnancy and tried it just a few weeks ago. I'll be 16 weeks on Monday and I'll find out the sex in 3 weeks, so excited....
congrats on your first baby, i am 30 weeks pregnant and since the first days i was preggo i had the feeling of the gender. i did the chain pregnancy predicter and it worked. it also tell you how many child you will have and the gender :)
here is hoow a did it. grab any chain with something hanging on it, it can be a ring or a medal, grab it from the top and let the medal down in your hand, if the chain maks circles its a girl if it make straight lines its a boy. it really works. i hope you can try it! btw. i am having a girl n still dont knw how to name her lol.
I am 23 weeks pregnant and decided to wait for multiple reasons. First I asked myself the question 'does it really matter' I dont believe knowing the gender will make me love my baby any more or less or that it will make the arrival of baby any more special. I think the announcement in the delivery room will make the experience all the more enjoyable after all the work i put into it, u know a little added bonus. People keep asking how i will know what to buy, well, babies have basically the same needs despite their gender and there r plenty of cute things that work well for boys and girls. Plus my Momma always told me that its half the fun getting to run out and go shopping after baby is born. I was also told by a friend whose sister is preg that they found out the sex (girl) and that because of this they didnt recieve anything that they needed at the baby shower, all they recieved is cloths. Yes it has been a hard journey since it seems everyone around me is trying to push in the other direction but I stayed strong and now have a wonderful surprise to wait for :) good things come to those who wait :)
I found out because i needed to be proved right lol. From the moment i found out i was pregnant i felt like it was a boy. And i was right :) My husband wanted to know because he didn't want to buy something we wouldn't use (ie clothes). I also wanted to be able to call the baby by his name, and not it, i cringed everytime i said it. His name was peanut until i found out because of the cringe.
With my daughter I waited till my husband returned back from Iraq and we found out at almost 8 months and with my son we found out as soon as we could. With this 3rd pregnancy my husband wants it to be a surprise. He wants to be able to come out of the room and announce the surprise that it is a girl or a boy. Besides I get an enjoyment of having people guess the sex of baby.
I am now 21 weeks and I have to say that at my 13 week ultrasound I asked the ultrasound tech what she thought and turned out she was right! I'm gonna be having a baby girl and I cant wait to see her!!!
Our doctor absolutely made us wait until I was 20 weeks pregnant but we were so excited to know! I had so many dreams and feelings about a girl and I did some of the gender tests that everyone is talking about but ends up we're having a BOY! either way it is a blessing though! Good luck, if your baby doesn't move much yet try drinking orange juice before you go in case he/she keeps their little legs crossed!!
Hello! I am a little over 19 weeks pregnant with my first child, and I get to find out the gender next week! I am so excited to find out so that I know what to start calling him/her! I've had the names picked out for a few months...I was wondering, though, as to why some people wait to be surprised when the baby is born? I feel like the suspense would kill me, not to mention the pronoun confusion (he/she, him/her). And all the people telling me they have a feeling it's a boy are driving me nuts. I want to know for sure! So if you waited to be surprised, what was your reasoning?
I had a surprise! We had planned a homebirth and didn't see a need to know the gender since some times the baby can hide and we didn't want unnessecary ultrasounds. I only had one ultrasound very early on. I wanted for me and my husband to be the ones who told each other.
I ended up having complications and during the last few weeks I was very antsy about wanting an ultrasound but didn't have one and still wish I had (may have been able to skip some of my induction due to a problem). During my c section though everyone was great about letting my husband communicate to me what we had. It was not the same as I wanted still, and if i could do it over knowing i would have a hospital birth or a c section - we would have found out ASAP in the pregnancy.
Oh and I thought I was having a boy the whole time and like 90% (seriously) of everyone we asked including strangers thought I was having a boy as well. I actually had really wanted a girl the first time though until I decided it was a boy inside me.
I am now 30 weeks pregnant, and wanted to wait and it be a surprise. However my boyfriend who has two daughters with his ex-wife really wanted to find out, as we really was hoping for a boy. He finally convinced me to find out and we found out at 20 weeks. We are excited for our son. We both had the feeling it was a boy. :)
We're on #3 and didn't find out with the other 2, we'll let this one be a surprise too. We've known people who have been told one thing and had another, plus what bigger surprise can you have in life? We think its super exciting to let the tension build! But it does drive everyone else crazy
Update: After finding out it was a girl at my 20-week ultrasound, I'm extremely glad I found out! Everybody (including any and all gender predictors I could find) were pointing to a boy, so I probably would have bought boy stuff. The anticipation had been driving me crazy. I'm a compulsive planner, so I like to know as many details as I can. I also couldn't stand the pronoun confusion, so now I can definitely refer to the baby as "she". I'm also relying a lot on gifts and hand-me-downs (I'm even putting her in some of my old dresses!), so I needed to be able to tell everybody else what I'm having.
Since this will be our first, we totally want to be surprised. When we let our OB know, she was super excited because she did the same with her kids and she says that it is totally fun finding our at the birth
I personally wanted to know the gender of both of my kids so I could be prepared. It made sense financially for me to know, and I don't like surprises. I had a gut feeling with both kids on their gender soon after I found out I was pregnant and I wasn't wrong! Some people like the element of surprise and some like top be prepared. To each their own. Knowing the sex didn't make me love the baby any less or any more than not knowing. The technology is so good now days too that it's rare for them to be wrong, unless the baby doesn't want to cooperate! Thankfully my abies weren't modest in the womb! Kudos to those who don't find out and can fly by the seat of their pants!
I dIdnt find out. I wanted to have that special moment when they were born. Everyone complains that they want to be ready so they find out. Truth be told I was all about the suspense and I knew if I bought neutral items, when I become prego again the neutral stuff would be used again.
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