My two year old is at the point where she knows whats right and wrong when it comes to some things. I have given her a light tap on the hand, but most of the time she sits in time out for two minuets if I have to keep telling her no about bothering something. To some extent time out works.

I believe in the bible where is says spare the rod spoil the child. our grandparents sure did grow up differently, and most of them grew up with such better values and so much more respect. Now I don't mean beat your children.... I just mean I am not afraid to spank my son when he is out of control. The key is never to hit out of anger, but out of love, and wanting to instill right and wrong in your child.

I believe it depends on the situation if a child should be spanked or not. When I was little my parents used a leather barber strap when it was called for; I was only spanked 3 times in my life and never did any of those things again. As for my own children,(now 19 and 21, I am currently expecting my third) I drew the line on if my hand would hurt worse than what they were going to be disciplined for. For example, a slap on the hand would not hurt as bad as them pulling down a hot pan from the stove. My youngest was spanked when he was 6 (in front of the neighbors) when he chased a ball into the street; my hand did not hurt him as bad as the car that had to slam on its breaks to avoid hitting him. I used time outs and grounding for everything else that was not a 'physical danger.' I also recommend that video games, TV's,  computers and other fun stuff is removed from children's rooms so that when they are sent to their rooms it actually is a punishment. This also allows parents to see what children are playing and watching especially when they are on line.

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Hello. Me and my sons father have different views on spanking and I personaly question if spanking is okay. Anyone have any thoughts on this?

Posted by Simba_Abmis29

In my opinion a little slap on the butt is fine but only if it is nesaceary i mostly stick to time outs the seem to work for my daughter  but each kids learns differently 

I don't think spanking is ever ok. There are other ways to punish a naughty child. I was spanked only once in my lifetime, by my grandfather. I'll never forget it. I remember crying and it didn't solve anything. The punishment should fit the crime! Parents need to do a better job at teaching their children what is right and wrong/safe and unsafe. One time I colored a plastic shelf. The punishment for that was helping my father clean it. That was the only time I did something bad when I stayed at my father's (parents separated soon after I was born.) He never yelled at me, but was firm with disipline. He gave me respect so I showed him respect. My mother was the oppisite on respect. She had no disipline. I still grew up as a respecting, well-mannerd adult.

I think it is ok in some situations. But it does not need to hurt the child. It should just be a light tap on the bottom and I think it should be a last resort. it should never be the first thing you do

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I think spanking is ok. I was spanked as a kid and I turned out fine. That was always a last resort. Most of the time my parents talked to me or gave me "the look." As long as there is no abuse going on, the reason for the spanking is explained to the child, and it's used as a last resort, spanking is ok.

Posted by Simba_Abmis29

Spanking, in my opinion, is okay in certian situations and if done correctly, scares the child more than it hurts them. You shouldn't go overboard or they will live in fear of  being spanked all the time. I only swat my 16 month old (who is still in diapers so it really doesn't hurt him as much as his feelings are hurt) when he climbs into the bassinette, bouncy seat etc with his 3 month old brother. We only use it as a last resort or in severe circumstances (such as with the possibility of my oldest accidentelly crushing or smothering my youngest in his exuberance to get him to play). 

In Response to To spank or not to spank?:

Hello. Me and my sons father have different views on spanking and I personaly question if spanking is okay. Anyone have any thoughts on this?

Posted by Simba_Abmis29