We Gave Up Big Birthday Parties: 5 Things We Do Instead

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    My oldest son’s first birthday was an elaborate affair.

    I stayed up every night for a week straight constructing goodie bags and decorations and all kinds of happy little accoutrements that the kids tried to gum to death and the parents largely ignored.

    It set me back a good $200, and my kid fell asleep halfway through it after exploding out the back of his diaper and crying while everyone sang.

    I haven’t gone to such extremes for a kiddie party since.


    Because, ain’t nobody got time for that!

    Everyone knows that honey badger kids don’t care about fancy party favors or themed décor. They don’t care if their goodie bags are personalized, if their cupcake toppers are homemade, or if you hire a clown or a magician or a face painter to come make everyone at the party all sparkly.

    They care about presents and friends and hugs and cupcakes. They want to open their presents and play with their friends and get cupcakes all over your dress when they hug you.

    It’s not about the crazy you bring to the party, it’s about the love … and the fun, of course. It’s about making that little person feel special for a few hours on their day. You could make that happen by exhausting yourself in your craft room for weeks and blowing your entire shoe budget for the year, or you could just not do that and do something like this instead:

    Making Kid Parties Happy Without Breaking the Bank:

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We Gave Up Big Birthday Parties: 5 Things We Do Instead

Amanda has been wowing the Internet since 2008 when she launched her pretty-much-useless guide for parents, parenting BY dummies. As it turns out, her parenting advice is not generally useful for more than a good laugh, but sometimes that’s exactly what you need! Amanda spends her offline time (which is embarrassingly limited) running a photography business, working as a social media director for a local magazine, writing freelance ... More

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  1. Profile photo of mommy nhoj mommy nhoj says:

    Thumpbs up to charity work. We might consider this in her next bday – it’s like giving back/ sharing the blessings you have. But we still want our little girl’s birthday more than just 3 of us sitting and let her blow her cake. It’s the perfect time to mingle with husband’s friends and colleagues. I am not a great party planner but surely I feel like giving the best shot for her first at least! I remember my parents did the same thing – just first and then the 18th! Hahaha

  2. Profile photo of Destiny Destiny says:

    I dont remember ever having a huge elaborate birthday party growing up. It is a little pointless. Invite all the friends over, get presents, eat cake. it doesnt have to be any more than that. for my daughter’s 1st birthday it was just me her daddy and my parents. she got her own little cake to dive in and more presents than a 1yr old knows what to do with…lol