Should Twins Be Dressed Alike?
Monday, July 16th, 2012
As a mother of twins, I find it irritating every time I see twins out with their parents that are dressed completely alike.
There is a set of twins I know, that have grown up dressing like someone else (their sister) since the time they were born. And now, that they are in middle school – and still dressing alike under their mother’s orders, it is a bit CREEPY. Even worse, is the fact that the two girls admit that they have to decide TOGETHER every day which outfit they will wear. And they hate it!
Of course, these two girls are identical twins. They are difficult to tell apart wearing different clothes, and they have become so accustomed to being called the other twins name, that they automatically answer to either. My twins are not identical. In fact, one teacher that they both had all year long didn’t realize they were even sisters, let alone twins – until the last day of school of this year. (Which is sort of scary considering this person taught my kids).
Everywhere I go though, I see twin moms that are so obsessed with the twin-ship, that they dress their children alike ALL THE TIME. They buy two outfits of everything, two pairs of shoes, identical hair bows. And look, admittedly it’s cute when they are babies and toddlers – or for the family picture or special occasion. But as a rule of thumb, not so much (plus, I wonder if it’s even healthy).
Once these kids get to school, the whole ‘capitalizing on twindom’ thing seems a tad shallow and a sheer plot for a mama to gain some attention for herself.
My twins are teens, and they have some pretty firm beliefs on dressing twins alike because they know firsthand what it is like to be a twin. And according to them, it’s not always as easy, or as fun as it is cracked up to be. In fact, according to my ‘twin experts’ it can be downright difficult and annoying – only made worse when parents try to create this whole ‘double trouble’ mirage for the world – as they strive to be seen as an individual in their life.
There is already so much fanfare and misconceptions surrounding multiple births that young children have to deal with. Being forced to dress alike, well that’s one that can be avoided.
What do you think? Should moms dress their twins alike? Is there an age when it is no longer cute, and simply an outcry for maternal attention?