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Nikki Reed Says Having Children Too Soon is a Mistake
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Nikki Reed may not be a name that most people recognize, but the Twilight actress gained some popularity after marrying American Idol contestant, Paul McDonald. Reed and McDonald were married last year and shortly after she was asked about children. She said, “Maybe I'm wrong, but I feel like it's a mistake for people to get married and then just [have kids right away]." She went on to say, "I feel like it is the pressure of the family making them do it. We want to travel and be able to fly on an airplane without a baby and just have freedom." After her comments she got a lot of flak, but recently she was interviewed again about the statement and stood by her previous comments.
I think this is the case of a young person (she is 24) being uninformed about what parenthood is really like. Is it hard? Absolutely. Does it change your life? Sure. But that does not make having children a mistake. I know plenty of friends who had children shortly after marriage and I am sure they don’t think it is a mistake. I myself had kids only three years into my marriage, though I got pregnant less than a year after we were married, that pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. However, I also grew up Mormon, which meant starting a family was a priority nailed into our heads over and over. Though I am no longer a practicing member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, I do still agree with the importance placed on a family. If we would have had a successful pregnancy the first time, or the five times after that, I would have been making a mistake in Nikki Reed’s eyes. While I respect her opinion, it is fun to have alone time with your new spouse, I resent her saying it was a mistake. A different path, yes but to call any child a mistake I feel is disingenuous and a sign of immaturity.
Do you agree with Nikki Reed? Do you think having kids shortly after marrying is a mistake?
Heather Montgomery is a freelance writer with a background in Elementary Education and an almost embarrassing need to read celebrity gossip. As a work-at-home mom to three children, she enjoys spending time with her family and friends. She was married in 2003 and c...Read More