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Friday, December 30, 2011 by Jeannie Fleming-Gifford
The New Year is here.
Funny, I used to look at the New Year as a new start. It was time to think about where I had been and where I wanted to go.
Then, I had a child. Now, every day is new as I see the world through her eyes. Every day is a new adventure.
Quite frankly, these days I'm not sure where I have been or where I am going. I do know that most days, it is quite a ride!
Where are you today? Since you became a parent, does the New Year's holiday hold more or less meaning?
I've never been one to set New Year's resolutions. I'm more of a "goal girl" myself. I like the idea of goals, the committment that "I'm going to do this." I like seeing this list on my refrigerator. It is a reminder of who I want to be.
This year, when it comes to my parenting and my child's development, I've once again found myself pondering goals.
What are your goals when it comes to being a parent?
Need some inspiration? Hopefully, you will find some here.
Here are some of my favorite thoughts about parenting designed to support our little one's development. Once again, I'll embrace these thoughts and keep them close to my heart this upcoming year.
*Read, sing, and talk daily with your little one. Stop the noise (whether that be the TV, radio or just miscellaneous distractions found in an ordinary day) and focus. Snuggle up and settle down.
*Be proactive vs. reactive to your child's needs.
*Be fit. I know all the excuses, because I use them too. Pledge to make time to move and groove with your munchkin. Maybe it's dancing in the living room (think of the triceps you can build while holding a baby and dancing!) or maybe it's a walk in the great outdoors (yes, I know it is cold outside, I live in Cleveland - bundle up). Watch your family's food intake (think more veggies, less cookies).
*Be present in your child's life vs. giving more presents (I saw this somewhere...What a great - and simple - concept!).
*Don't compare your child to others. Value them, respect, and support their development.
*Patience. Patience. Patience. Being a parent is hard work. Being an infant or toddler or preschooler is hard work too. Be patient. Kind. Loving. Model the behaviors you want for your child. And, when that doesn't work, take a break or a breath and then try again. Remember, parenthood is not a race. There is no start and no finish. It is a journey in which somedays may be easier than others.
*Don't rush time, no matter how challenging it is or how sleep deprived you may be.
*Remember, every parent and every child has their *moments.* It is what makes us human. When you hit a "bump" in the road, go over it and then keep going. Help your child learn to do the same.
*Use your resources and ask for help. You may be the biggest influence in your child's life, but it is okay to let the "village" help you raise a happy and healthy child.
*When in question, ask. You are a parent. This doesn't mean you have to know everything, you just have to know where to find the information you need. Pediatricians, early childhood providers, neighbors, friends...reach out when you need them. You ARE your child's best advocate.
*Surround yourself and your child with good people. We don't pick our family, but we do pick our friends, some of them we call upon like they are family. If you don't like the role models and support in your life, find new models and support. Find individuals who will support your child's healthy growth and development. Surround yourself with people who will give you the support you need as a parent. Find those who will stick with you when the bumps in the road are the biggest.
Wishing you and yours the happiest of New Years!
