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Lisa Kudrow and husband Michel Stern’s only child, Julian, does not want any siblings. According to Kudrow, her 14-year-old son has been saying no more siblings since he could talk.
“He doesn’t want siblings. Since he could talk he’d say, ‘No, no I don’t want a sister or a brother,’” the actress, 48, recalls. “Someone would get pregnant and he’d say, ‘But you’re not, right?’” The lack of siblings has Kudrow feeling a little bad for her boy, only because he will shoulder the entire burden of caring for them when they get older. She goes onto say, “Hopefully he’ll marry someone with a nice family too and he’ll have a family, he wants to have a lot of kids.”
Now I have nothing against parents of only children, I understand the want and desire to have only one child and the other circumstances that make having a second child not possible or desirable. I don’t think only children are damaged in any way by being an “only” and think that they can have a childhood just as fulfilling as my children with siblings will have. However, the thing that strikes me odd about this situation is that Kudrow seems to be willing to cater to her son’s desire to not have siblings. Especially when she says he wants to have lots of children of his own.
I don’t think it is right or normal for a parent to allow their child to make the decision of how many children to bring into the family. While I understand that Kudrow and her husband’s choice to not have any more children was ultimately theirs, and there could in fact be other factors affecting their decision, I just think it is odd.
Would you allow your child a say in whether or not you have more children?