Judge Ordered Valerie Bruno to Cut Off Daughter’s Ponytail for Lighter Sentence

hair cutValerie Bruno’s 13-year-old daughter, Kaytlen Lopan, received a haircut in court as part of her punishment for chopping off several inches of a 3-year-old girl’s long hair in a McDonald’s last March. Now, Bruno is filing a formal complaint, saying she felt intimidated by the judge.

Lopan, who was charged with assault, did not know the victim beforehand, but befriended her and then cut her hair off.  According to the Huffington Post, Lopan “also admitted to charges related to making eight months of harassing phone calls to a Colorado teenager. The phone calls included threats of mutilation and rape.”

Lopan will have to spend 30 days in detention, serve 150 hours of community service (reduced from the originally sentenced 276 hours, due to the haircut), and “pay restitution to the victims.”

Mindy Moss, the mother of the 3-year-old victim, said that her daughter’s long hair (down to the middle of her back), which is now chin length, had never been cut.

Bruno told the press that “An eye for an eye, that’s not how you teach kids right from wrong.”

By filing a complaint, Bruno is only bringing her family more attention. Considering her daughter butchered a toddler’s hair and admittedly threatened a teenager for months, she should probably walk away from all of this with her tail between her legs and a newfound resolution to help her daughter’s mentality, and teach her some decent values.

“An eye for an eye” is not the way to teach, of course; but is Bruno really preaching to the public about how to teach kids right from wrong? And, by the way, where was Moss while her toddler was getting the new ‘do?

What do you think? Was Lopan’s punishment too harsh?

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Judge Ordered Valerie Bruno to Cut Off Daughter’s Ponytail for Lighter Sentence

Kimberly Shannon is a wife, a mother, an editor, a writer ... She is always working to find the perfect balance¹! After Kimberly received her bachelor’s degree in Journalism, she worked on two master’s degree programs (Creative Writing, and Marriage and Family Therapy). At various times in her life she has signed up to study Naturopathy, only to back out at the last minute, and humored the idea of returning full-time to the world of dance. Kimberly has also started 10 different children ... More

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  1. Profile photo of Bruce Bruce says:

    American needs ten thousand more judges just like this one. This is not even close to an eye for an eye. Hair grows back, eyes don’t. It was a perfect judgment in every sense of the word. Don’t be surprised to hear about this teen again in the news with a mother like the one she has. If she was any kind of mother, the judge wouldn’t have had to suggest a punishment like that; the mother would have already taken care of business before she ever got to court.

  2. Profile photo of ErinF ErinF says:

    Especially considering the nature of the harrassment, I think both parent and child got off light. I think that mandatory counseling would have been beneficial as part of the ruling; threats of mutilation and rape are not something to ignore.

  3. Profile photo of Mom2two12 Mom2two12 says:

    I agree with what the judge did.

  4. Profile photo of nydia rivera nydia rivera says:

    This is too weird. What was the judge thinking, traumatizing another child? It should have been punishment on the mother only.

  5. Profile photo of LaurenLaw LaurenLaw says:

    Appropriate punishment? Take this child to a children’s cancer hospital…let her talk with the girls who have no hair so she can understand how important hair is. Let her help make the hats that these victims of disease have to wear because they’ve lost their hair. Teach this child compassion…she got away with her act and all she had to do was get a haircut (that she probably doesn’t care a hoot about). Let her visit a detention center full of "bullies" and learn what she’s about to lose if she keeps acting like she does. SHE should be doing public community work too.

  6. Profile photo of LaurenLaw LaurenLaw says:

    Appropriate punishment? Take this child to a children’s cancer hospital…let her talk with the girls who have no hair so she can understand how important hair is. Let her help make the hats that these victims of disease have to wear because they’ve lost their hair. Teach this child compassion…she got away with her act and all she had to do was get a haircut (that she probably doesn’t care a hoot about). Let her visit a detention center full of "bullies" and learn what she’s about to lose if she keeps acting like she does. SHE should be doing public community work too.

  7. Profile photo of Bethany Bethany says:

    If my child ever did something like that I would expect her to be punished by myself and a court if that’s where it’s taken. Obviously these children’s parents were not present to stop the behavior. I think Bruno should be ordered to attend some parenting classes. She may be a good mom, I don’t know this lady, but obviously she needs some help controling her kid. Lopan is clearly a bully that needs to be taught right from wrong and that bad actions have punishments. But I still wonder what these kid’s parents were doing while they were at McDonalds.

  8. Profile photo of sukismom sukismom says:

    I do feel that it is pretty harsh, obviously it is that responsible adult fault (for both children). the 13 year old’s mom had to have done something to provoke the other mom. I agree that I would be freaking out too if my daughter’s hair got cut but seriously where do we live? In old England?!?!?! Where we can use humiliation as a punishment! the 30 days OR 150 would be enough… the phone calls are a-whole-other story.

  9. Profile photo of valeriehyatt valeriehyatt says:

    no way a 13 year old girl picking on a 3 yera old thats just pathetic.

  10. Profile photo of Bronte Bronte says:

    The girl got the scissors first by asking the employees and when they refused going across the street to buy them from the dollar store. Which if that doesn’t show how intent this girl was to cause the three year old harm, I don’t know what does. That also leads me to ask, where was the 13 year old’s mother during this entire time ? Parents; we may not know where our children are every second, but pretty close. How do you not notice your daughter leaving the restaurant ?

  11. Profile photo of Bronte Bronte says:

    Every illegal action has a consequence, so the phrase an eye for an eye doesn’t actually apply here. When the quote was originally being used , the context was over a war, and how we do not need revenge. This was not a revenge action this was a fair consequence to her actions. I really don’t see why we are supposed to have more sympathy for a girl that when across the street to purchase scissors so she could cut off the hair of a smaller younger child. This child is a bully no ifs ands or butts about it. As evidence by her also admitting to placing harassing phone calls for over eight months to another victim. I think that as a parent we would all like to see the good in our children, but if however we are so blinded by that, we cannot learn to give them fair boundaries and teach them how to treat their fellow man, than we loose our right to decide what is and is not fair punishment to our children that are out of control. Obviously having your hair cut off is traumatic, but it is something that will grow back, and hopefully serves as a reminder to this bully that it is not okay what she did, and that her actions hurt everyone, including herself.

  12. Profile photo of Tammy Tammy says:

    I agree with the judge. This was not as much a case of "an eye for an eye" as it was an attempt at getting the 13 year old to feel some empathy for the child with the unwanted haircut. Yes, the 3-year-old’s mother should have been watching more closely, but it sounds like Bruno is more concerned with getting public attention than teaching her daughter right from wrong. What will her next exploitation be?

  13. Profile photo of RosieM RosieM says:

    Obviously something is wrong with the teen, she needs some professional help. At this point, instead of punishing her, figure what’s wrong with her first!!! This cutting of the hair incident is not a big deal though, hair grows back!!!! Give me a break, and I agree, where was the mom of the 3 year old when she was getting her new do?!!! I have a 5 year old that I keep a really close eye on. Now with the harassing incident, that is serious and they need to get her some help! I really do hate when kids are labeled at a young age, you never know what’s going on in their little world, so don’t judge!!!

  14. Profile photo of twj1970 twj1970 says:

    Punishment was not harsh enough. Are you kidding me? I’d be in jail for slapping the shit out of the little brat. I use the word brat because the other 4 letter c word is too offensive for this family site. Bruno/lopan is destined to be in the news as her outrageous behavior will continue into adulthood. lopan/Bruno will be on one of those 48hour 20/20 ID crime shows one day.

  15. Profile photo of Jessica Jessica says:

    An eye for an eye and the whole world would be blind.

  16. Profile photo of heps7 heps7 says:

    That was a totally appropriate punishment. Personally if I was the judge the 13 year old would have been punished as well as her mother for allowing it to happen. I think these days a lot of parents have gotten lazy about raising and disciplining their kids, so giving the mother a punishment as well would show parents that what they do or don’t do in regards to their kids makes a difference also.

  17. Profile photo of heps7 heps7 says:

    That was a totally appropriate punishment. Personally if I was the judge the 13 year old would have been punished as well as her mother for allowing it to happen. I think these days a lot of parents have gotten lazy about raising and disciplining their kids, so giving the mother a punishment as well would show parents that what they do or don’t do in regards to their kids makes a difference also.

  18. Profile photo of CharlotteAnn CharlotteAnn says:

    I agree with Judge 100%……..

  19. Profile photo of telmahury telmahury says:

    I agree with the judge – good for him! (or was it her?) Bruno should think twice about dishing out how to teach kids right from wrong – she obviously didn’t do a good job of that herself.

  20. Profile photo of ufuoma ufuoma says:

    The judge should her given her more punishment. the hair cut was a good one, at least she knows how it feels to get an unwanted hair cut. she is a very mean teenager and wasn’t brought up properly by her parents. she is also a bully. A very bad child and got what she deserved. where was the other child’s mom when she cut her daughter’s hair? Moms should watch their kids more often than not.

  21. I beg to differ. Sometimes, not all of the time, but sometimes an "eye for and eye" is a perfect approach. It is often the only way to teach children, particularly young children, empathy.

    In regards to this particular situation, and based on the limited data given, an "eye for an eye" approach will not necessarily help…though it is certainly warranted. This child needs help psychologically or emotionally rather than just behaviorally. These do not seem to be mischievous behaviors she is exhibiting but they are, rather, more of a devious and troubled nature.

  22. Yeah! where was the mother in all of this? If Mindy Moss truly was a good mother, then her child would have never been left alone in the first place to let this all happen

  23. Profile photo of meredith meredith says:

    What a bizarre story! I think the 13 yo’s punishment was not harsh at all. She might have some serious problems and if her mom’s only concern is that she had to cut her hair that might say something about their homelife and why the teenager’s behavior has gotten so strange.

  24. Profile photo of Baby Baby says:

    NO she did not think she was doing something wrong when she cut off the toddlers hair. I mean if you have a child’s hair that has never been cut for 3 yrs (LONG HAIR ON A CHILD THAT AGE, U KNOW IT HAS NEVER BEEN CUT) apparently it is something her parents held dear. A 13 yr old girl know better than to do something so radical to someone. The mother of the 13 yr old girl should maybe be glad that the judge did not say since your daughter is a miner then you get to receive her punishment.. The hours maybe the child’s hair will grow out but it will take a lot longer than that. In hair time. 24 hr day 7 days a week 1/2 inch a month is average. ( My mom is a hair dresser). And yes I would like to now were the mom was and was it just a chunk cut out of the back? Why did the 13 yr old even have scissors at the McDonald’s? Those are a weapon if she is talking about mutilating and raping the 3 yr olds mom should also be thanking GOD her baby was alive since that girl had scissors. Crazy story but I think she got what she deserves.

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