Is Your Child Bullied? The Solution is Plastic Surgery!

Monday, July 30th, 2012 by from Buzzworthy Bulletins

bullied girl gets plastic surgery14-year-old Nadia Ilse is excited to no longer be called “Dumbo” or “elephant ears” by her classmates. She recently had plastic surgery to change her appearance, thanks to the Little Baby Face Foundation, a charity that helps children born with facial deformities.

She has been bullied since the first grade because of her ears and even “begged her mother at the age of 10 for an otoplasty – an operation to pin her ears back.”

The Little Baby Face Foundation contacted Nadia’s mother, flew them both to New York City, and provided about $40,000 of free plastic surgery – her ears were corrected, and she also received rhinoplasty, reducing the size of her nose, and mentoplasty, altering her chin. Nadia is not the first child to go under the knife to avoid bullying, and she won’t be the last (90,000 youth reportedly underwent cosmetic surgery in 2007).

I wonder, however, what type of message we send our children – the bullies and the bullied – when we support decisions to alter appearance purely to avoid name-calling and harassment. I fear this could turn into a new level of bullying. Hey – you’re so ugly! Why don’t you just go get a nose job! Or the comments could be worse. You got a nose job? You still look pretty ugly to me! Hey, Everyone! Bird Beak tried to get a new nose!! How will that then make the bullied child feel? I mean, if the nose was fixed, but not the actual problem, then what? Or what about: Mom, Suzie got a nose job, why can’t I? Can I also get my chin changed? I want to look like Stacy. No one makes fun of Stacy!

Um … no, you may not.

“While Nadia says she knows she should have been accepted as she was before the surgery, she also knew the bullying wouldn’t end and has no regrets following the procedure.”

“Nadia must still start counseling as part of her treatment to overcome the years of psychological distress from bullying, but Little Baby Face board member Don Moriarity told MailOnline that Nadia’s new outlook demonstrates the group’s mission … [to transform] the lives of these children and [give] them newfound confidence.”

If Nadia was my child, I think I would have allowed her to get an otoplasty; and I even would’ve allowed her to get it at a much younger age – even before she began schooling. But I don’t think I would’ve allowed her to alter her nose and chin too. There are a lot of gorgeous women whose beauty comes from having less-than-standard features; noses and chins come in many different shapes and sizes. However, Nadia is not my child; I am not the mother who comforted her after a long day of bullying at school.

But I don’t think the actual bullying problem was addressed. As parents, I think we need to make sure we know the difference between changing our children’s futures for the better versus just changing our children.

What do you think? Would you let your child get plastic surgery to put an end to bullying? Would you let your child get plastic surgery just because he/she didn’t like the way he/she looked?

What do you think? Is Your Child Bullied? The Solution is Plastic Surgery!

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Kimberly Shannon is a wife, a mother, an editor, a writer ... She is always working to find the perfect balance¹! After Kimberly received her bachelor’s degree in Journalism, she worked on two master’s degree programs (Creative Writing, and Marriage and Family Therapy). At various times in her life she has signed up to study Naturopathy, only to back out at the last minute, and humored the idea of returning full-time to the world of dance. Kimberly has also started 10 different children ... More

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  1. Avatar of Alyssa Alyssa says:

    You should love yourself for who you are. The goods and the bads.

  2. Avatar of Alanna Alanna says:

    I feel like this is giving the bullies too much power.

  3. Avatar of Caitlyn Caitlyn says:

    I was bullied for having freckles and being to skinny and having a weird bald spot on the right side of my hair line. Im 25 now and if i could have gotten something done about any of that i know they can do laser treatments to reduce your freckles i would have done it even a make over.

  4. I think that it helps and all but sometimes you got to be strong.

  5. Avatar of Kimberly Kimberly says:

    I didn’t even see any facial features that needed to be “fixed” on this girl’s face?

  6. Avatar of John Haley John Haley says:

    I was bullied for being the “fat kid” in school. You know what….it made me a much better person today and able to withstand the “REAL” world. I think if you are going to help kids born with facial deformities…FANTASTIC! Especially if it will help the child’s health….but having large ears???? That may be going too far!

  7. Avatar of Laura Laura says:

    I was born blind in one eye. I endured terrible teasing. I thank my parents for sacrificing so I could have surgery to make my eye look more normal. Nothing worked until the Cleveland Clinic got involved when I was 32. But…I knew my parents loved me. My brother was born with ears the doctor called “hound dog ears”. He would have terrible nightmares that the kids were chasing him and setting his ears on fire. My parents had two surgeries done. My bother is a very successful missionary and public speaker now. My 3 other sisters were beautiful. I think that if you can help your child with a deformity, you should.

  8. Avatar of Jamie Jamie says:

    I think if it made this little girl feel better then what’s so bad about it. Sad to say but the society we live in is not for the faint at heart I mean our kids watch tv shows where everyone is pretty and perfect, We as parents must teach our children that everyone is different and beautiful in some way. And the bullies must be stopped or these stories will keep on appearing or worse yet the stories in which children kill themselves over being bullied.

  9. Avatar of Kitty Kitty says:

    Way to reinforce the concept that looks are way more important than anything else, Little Baby Face. Good job.

  10. Avatar of Nan Nan says:

    People in the US are DYING from lack of healthcare and THIS is what we pour our money into? I had a big Iraqi/Jewish nose growing up. I got into fights because I was sick of being teased. Then I became an adult and realized that over 90% of the male population worships me just because I’m female. Furthermore, I realized that I don’t give a flying fig about my nose. If people can’t accept me, they have no reason to be in my life. I am engaged to get married by the end of this year to a man I’m head over heals, for! We have a beautiful son who I would call perfect. By the way, plastic surgery won’t change your genetic make-up. I know it’s hard to tell self-conscious teens that it gets better. But it does. STOP WASTING MUCH NEEDED HEALTHCARE ON YOUR INSECURITIES! Healthcare in that States costs a pretty little fortune.

  11. Avatar of Nicole Nicole says:

    ” The Little Baby Face Foundation, a charity that helps children born with facial deformities.” Since when did having ears that aren’t “perfectly” proportionate to your head, or a slightly big nose, or anything that kids find to tease other kids about become a “facial deformity” ? I understand what this organization is trying to do, but there are other ways to go about such a thing, besides providing children with plastic surgery, it seems as if it is pretty much agreeing with what they are being bullied for and just offering to change it. As if that helps make everything right.

  12. This is totally the wrong message to be sending to kids… “Hey, nobody can stand to look at you so Change it!”….. No way in heck. Nobody should be bullied but the last thing any young woman needs to be doing is catering herself to meet the expectations of her peers. These kids don’t matter, do you know how rare it is that I see ANYBODY I went to school with? You learn alot about the real “ugly” side of people by being bullied.

  13. Avatar of Dave Charles Dave Charles says:

    she isn’t really ugly she just has a plane face and big ears in the second photo the only difference i really seen was a different hair cut and her ears looked smaller and she had makeup on

  14. Avatar of Lindsey Lindsey says:

    Whatever makes a person feel better every situation is different this wasnt about vanity or gracing the cover of playboy with big boobies this was about feeling comfortable in her own skin she probably suffered so much depression who knows this could of saved her life.. and god gives everyone a gift a plastic surgeon is here for a purpose and i believe this is one of them . id be scared to let me child do it but her emotional and mental well being was at stake

  15. Avatar of lyndsey lyndsey says:

    God says we are all perfect!

  16. Avatar of janet janet says:

    No i would not because if you change who you are for other people then you have already let them win…and you might still find something wrong with your self even after the surgery and who’s to say that the bullying would even stop!

  17. Avatar of Layne Layne says:

    I’ve never been in their shoes and faced what they have to deal with daily, so I don’t want to judge. However I hate to think that there are bullies that bad out there, and wonder why that isn’t being addressed more.

  18. Avatar of Thinkpink3 Thinkpink3 says:

    No, I wouldn’t let them get plastic surgery just to put a stop to the bullying. Some of the most perceived beautiful children can also fall victim to bullying. In fact, the smallest uniquity such as being a new student or their parents job can land them in the center of bullying, it is not just their looks. Every child has to be taught that it is the person they are inside that is most important, they should also be taught how to stand up for themselves. And every adult has to do what they can to change the behaviors of the bullies. I would however allow my child to get plastic surgery if there was something that they deeply disliked about themselves, something that weighed heavily on their self esteem and their own self image. Something that was hindering their enjoyment of being a child or a teen or adolescent, but it would have to be because they truly wanted it, not because they felt others would accept them more.

  19. Avatar of David David says:

    Change yourself to conform to society’s desires…

  20. Avatar of Laura Laura says:

    What happens when she gets married and has children?

    • Avatar of Laura Laura says:

      My deformities were not genetic. My children did not inherit them. My brother’s were and we warned his wife. Their daughter is lovely and did not inherit them.

    • Avatar of Laura Laura says:

      My children were not born blind in one eye and deformed like I was. I was brain damaged, it was not genetic. My brother’s daughter has large ears, but nothing worthy of surgery. When he got married I warned his wife of the possibility of inheriting “hound dog ears”. She understood. Her tiny ears seemed to have averaged them out. That was genetics.

    • Avatar of Thinkpink3 Thinkpink3 says:

      I don’t understand your question

      • Avatar of Nan Nan says:

        Genetics, first off. Her children will still inherit her features (if it is a dominant feature. If not, they can still be carriers). Secondly, what kind of message will she send her children?

        I believe that is what the OP meant.

  21. Avatar of Amanda Amanda says:

    you know, i think this is a cool thing for kids.. to many of them are bullied and commit suicide because of it.. if this stops that.. then its great!

  22. Avatar of Tez Tez says:

    I would support plastic surgery in cases where the child has a true deformity, such as Treacher Collins Syndrome, or if they were in an accident, especially if it can cause medical problems. I think this Baby Face foundation should be focusing on children with cleft lips and burns, not on large ears and droopy noses.
    I think we should put more effort into changing the bully’s way of thinking, not on the victim’s appearence.
    I also must point out the Twilight Zone episode where every 16 year was legal required to get plastic surgery to look like the same person, That show was well ahead of it’s time once again.

  23. Their was nothing wrong with her looks in the first place. Does she go to some school for supermodels?????? She looks like a normal teen girl and looks will never make up for attitude. I was bullied in school but i had my own friends, when people saw i was athletic they left me alone but i would never be friends with the people who did bully me. One of the many problems with this country is how people are solely judged by their looks. Every ad on tv and radio is talking about the perfect hair, skin, teeth, weight etc etc. This girl had long hair try wearing it down over your ears and let that 40,000 go to kids with real deformities.

  24. Avatar of Joy Joy says:

    Unless, it was an actual deformity (and I don’t think her ears were) I wouldn’t allow my kids to have plastic surgery. What does that tell the child? The bullies are right we need to fix you. I don’t think so. I’d rather be telling my child you are beautiful inside and out – some people are just to blind to see it. And if the bullies were particularly bad I’d get her out of that situation.

  25. Avatar of nichole nichole says:

    it would really depend on the issue causing the bulllying as to if ide let my kid get plastic surgery. something sevier, i problably would have done when little, but it would have to be something really huge, not just, my chins to big, my nose is a little crooked, my lips arnt full enough type thing…. something like an accident or really bad scar, or if theres a huge disformed looking mole taking up half her face, which may need to medically be removed anyways……

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