During Halloween, if you are lucky enough to live in an apartment complex or subdivision, your children are likely filling up their tiny buckets and pillow cases with tons of candy. And, it’s easy and relatively safe because you probably know most of the people whose houses you visit.
But what about those people like me, who live out in the middle of freaking nowhere, with no neighbors?
Every year, our version of Trick or Treating is to get in the car and either go to a friend’s subdivision and trick or treat with them, or visit some unsuspecting neighborhood that looks like there are a lot of Halloween participants.
For some reason this bothers me. I grew up in a subdivision. I can remember my mother complaining when people would drive their kids around to random subdivisions to gather up as much loot (candy) as possible. The kids would come to the door and she would get all huffy because she didn’t know who they were. It was almost as if they were trespassing.
Today, I know that a lot of other people who live in subdivisions feel the same way. After all, Halloween candy is expensive, and running out 30 minutes into the spooky music and dry ice smoke is frustrating. So, when they see the pickup truck pull down their road full to the gills with children that are dressed up as ghosts, ghouls, and goblins they get upset and immediately want to turn off their lights. “These kids aren’t from HERE, they don’t belong here!”
So, I get it. Trick or Treat territory (so to speak) should be relatively close to home. As parents, you should choose areas where your kids ‘belong’ – where they have friends. Randomly driving around, covering miles of roadways to hit up rich subdivisions in the hopes that you won’t have to buy school snacks for a year is ruthless and rude.
But what about kids like my kids?
It’s not their fault they don’t have neighbors. Should they not be able to Trick or Treat because they don’t have a place to belong, in a neighborhood or complex? Is it totally rude for me to drive my kids to the entrance of a subdivision and allow them to enjoy the traditional experience of Trick or Treating, even though the ground is foreign? Am I instantly a maternal candy hoarding hag because we do this?
Chime in and tell us what you think! Is it okay to trick or treat in places where you do not live or do you feel this is taboo?
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