From Your Family to Ours: Mommy is MINE
Friday, August 3rd, 2012
My oldest son is 14 months old and is extremely possessive over me. He’ll share me with his little brother but whenever daddy hugs mommy, little Kye has a meltdown. He actually pushes us apart. We try to include him in hugs but it just makes him even more angry. Has anyone else had this issue? And if so how did you manage it?
So far, she has heard from member deena, who offers some great advice and reassurance:
Ugh! I know what you are going thru!!! My 13 month old is in that stage. The good news is that it is just that, a stage. My older two did the same. I can be playing with my older two or my husband and if my daughter thinks things are getting too rough for mommy she come running to my rescue. Just hang in there. Make sure your lil one sees and understands that the affection is a good touch. Tell him that it is ok. That daddy loves mommy like mommy loves Kye. We look at my daughter (Kaylie) and I tell her, "Aww, nice daddy” and give him a hug. She is starting to get used to the affection now. I wish you luck!
Who else has faced this stage with their toddler? How did you handle it?
This is one of those challenges where, even as an adult, it can be hard not to have your feelings hurt by the child’s response. It can be the father, the mother, a sibling, or another caregiver that gets the cold shoulder in the affection department. If you dealt with this, did you do anything special to help the other person with their feelings?