Why Every Pregnant Woman Should Take “Pregnancy Bumpies”
Thursday, October 16th, 2014
When I was pregnant with my third child, my husband and I decided we were going to take daily photos of my growing shape to document the pregnancy. It was important for the two of us, and now, years after that decision, we can look back and say it was a more important decision than we realized.
Each evening, I would stand in the same spot in the house, wearing the same clothing, while my husband took a photo. I was smiling, happy, and excited with the thought of looking back at these pregnancy photos and being able to share them with my child later in life.
When I was 14-weeks pregnant, my husband and I stopped taking photos. It wasn’t because it became too much work or that we didn’t think it would be useful anymore, but because my baby died. I had a miscarriage, and there was no longer any baby to document, so the photos stopped.
During my grief, I was so thankful for those daily photos I took. It was more than just documenting a pregnancy—it documented a life, in a short time, and allowed me to fully celebrate despite the fear that did eventually come true.
I read an article on The Telegraph titled “Bumpies: Why are pregnant women fishing for compliments?” and knew once I read it that I had to share my own thoughts.
“Bumpies,” as The Telegraph defines, are like selfies, but instead of taking photos of our own faces, bumpies are photos of our growing pregnant bellies that are then shared on social media. I didn’t have social media when I lost my baby at 14 weeks, but when I was expecting my last baby, bumpies and sharing on social media became a weekly event that I participated in for the duration of my pregnancy.
Those images I took and shared on social media were so much more than fishing for compliments or being self-involved. My bumpies were about celebrating each moment, no matter how short, for this pregnancy that I deeply wanted. They were about the community of amazing people who supported me and rooted for me and my baby to make it to full-term. Sharing the details got me through some scary unknowns and gave me a positive outlet to share my happiness and joy through the terrifying anxiety of “what if this happens again?”
So, I say, if you’re pregnant, you should share these bumpies and put them all over social media. You should be able to celebrate the milestones, the happy and scary times, and if someone wants to tell you how great you look, that’s always welcome to a pregnant woman.
What are your thoughts on pregnancy selfies (also called bumpies)? Share in the comments!