Why Every Pregnant Woman Should Take “Pregnancy Bumpies”

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When I was pregnant with my third child, my husband and I decided we were going to take daily photos of my growing shape to document the pregnancy. It was important for the two of us, and now, years after that decision, we can look back and say it was a more important decision than we realized.

Each evening, I would stand in the same spot in the house, wearing the same clothing, while my husband took a photo. I was smiling, happy, and excited with the thought of looking back at these pregnancy photos and being able to share them with my child later in life.

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When I was 14-weeks pregnant, my husband and I stopped taking photos. It wasn’t because it became too much work or that we didn’t think it would be useful anymore, but because my baby died. I had a miscarriage, and there was no longer any baby to document, so the photos stopped.

During my grief, I was so thankful for those daily photos I took. It was more than just documenting a pregnancy—it documented a life, in a short time, and allowed me to fully celebrate despite the fear that did eventually come true.

I read an article on The Telegraph titled “Bumpies: Why are pregnant women fishing for compliments?” and knew once I read it that I had to share my own thoughts.

“Bumpies,” as The Telegraph defines, are like selfies, but instead of taking photos of our own faces, bumpies are photos of our growing pregnant bellies that are then shared on social media. I didn’t have social media when I lost my baby at 14 weeks, but when I was expecting my last baby, bumpies and sharing on social media became a weekly event that I participated in for the duration of my pregnancy.

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Those images I took and shared on social media were so much more than fishing for compliments or being self-involved. My bumpies were about celebrating each moment, no matter how short, for this pregnancy that I deeply wanted. They were about the community of amazing people who supported me and rooted for me and my baby to make it to full-term. Sharing the details got me through some scary unknowns and gave me a positive outlet to share my happiness and joy through the terrifying anxiety of “what if this happens again?”

So, I say, if you’re pregnant, you should share these bumpies and put them all over social media. You should be able to celebrate the milestones, the happy and scary times, and if someone wants to tell you how great you look, that’s always welcome to a pregnant woman.

What are your thoughts on pregnancy selfies (also called bumpies)? Share in the comments!

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Why Every Pregnant Woman Should Take “Pregnancy Bumpies”

Devan McGuinness is the founder of the online resource Unspoken Grief, which is dedicated to breaking the silence of perinatal grief for those directly and indirectly affected by miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal death. Using her own experience of surviving 12 miscarriages, Devan has been actively supporting and encouraging others who are wading through the challenges associated with perinatal and neonatal loss. Winner of the 2012 Bloganthropy Award and named one of Babble's “25 bloggers wh ... More

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  1. Profile photo of Mary Mary says:

    This is my First child and I am 17 weeks pregnant as of Wednesday. I have yet to take any pictures of myself while pregnant because I already feel self conscious about the way I look. I know it’s a natural process and really is amazing how a women’s body alters to carry and then give life to a new baby but I can’t help thinking that I just look fatter than I was. Maybe I will start taking weekly photos once its a little more u noticeable.
    I feel sorry for your loss. I am glad that you were able to celebrate the babies short life even after its death. I wish you and your family the greatest health and prosperity.

    • Profile photo of Devan McGuinnessAuthor Devan McGuinness says:

      Congrats on your pregnancy, Mary! I am sorry you feel self-conscious, but I do understand — lots of changes happening in a short time. I think, if you can, you should take a few photos — you may want to look back one day or your child may want to see too.

      xo!

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