Preconceived Notions

Wanted: Dream Nanny

Thursday, September 26th, 2013 by from Preconceived Notions
wanted: dream nanny

My husband and I are super blessed in life, in particular with our careers. We both work for a great company (hint: you’re on our website right now!), doing jobs we enjoy, surrounded by our wonderful family members. Don’t get me wrong, we work hard, and quite a bit, but we wouldn’t trade this opportunity in for anything. Since we work with family and our business is about family, we’re all a bit more flexible and understanding about kid-related well, anything. With our ...

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The Pregnant Infertile

Wednesday, July 17th, 2013 by from Preconceived Notions
pregnant belly, The Pregnant Infertile

Month after month I lived a Groundhog’s Day of monitoring my basal body temperature, urinating on ovulation predictor sticks, consuming fertility drugs, giving blood, putting my feet in the stirrups, evaluating cervical mucous, deciphering ovulation pains versus menstrual cramps, holding my breath for the two minutes my pregnancy test took to determine my fate, crying after the result window revealed another failure, swallowing my heartache, and vowing to try again... and ...

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Time Marches On

Tuesday, July 9th, 2013 by from Preconceived Notions
watch keeping time

Life is full of obstacles, and I’ve hit a few along the way. In general, I tend to muster as much courage as possible when life is difficult, and try to remind myself that I will somehow, in some small way, come out stronger in the end.

Most of the time this works. I’ve survived great loss, held tight during the ebb and flow of close relationships, and one night lived through something so terrifying that you will never ever see it in writing. Some things are best left on the ...

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am I ready to have a baby

“They” say timing is everything. If that’s the case, is there ever a right time to have kids? Are you ever fully financially, mentally, emotionally, (and then some) ready to bring a wonderful little life into this world? One who is completely dependent upon you?

I am a planner, and trying to determine when to bring a baby into mine and my husband’s happily busy lives has been the most difficult thing I’ve attempted to plan for yet. I don’t want to make any mistakes (did I ...

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IVF: My Waning Hope

Tuesday, March 5th, 2013 by from Preconceived Notions
ivf waning hope

A yo-yo in the wind—that is what I am. I rise, fall, and sway between bitterness, anger, indifference, and hopefulness. It is not working out exactly as I hoped. I’ll explain why in just a moment. First, let’s catch up.

My baseline appointment went fairly well. I had approximately 14 follicles on deck, primed and ready to grow (potentially). Once that was behind us, I only had to endure the drug and shot-administering class. Aside from my fidgeting husband, who was ...

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stomach injection

This is not how I should be feeling on the eve of my baseline; is it? The butterflies in my stomach are at war. They are not lightheartedly flitting about in happy anticipation.

No—they are bouncing violently from one side to the other like spastic super balls. Meanwhile, doubt and hopelessness are swirling around in my head. Amidst the chaos, though, hope sporadically peeks out with a wink, I assume just to offer assurance it has yet to forsaken me. ...

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Do you know that annoyed, frustrated feeling you get when you highly anticipate your favorite series’s season finale only to succumb to the writers’ ultimate revenge—the cliff hanger? Yeah, well, I have been hanging onto the side of that cliff for some time now. It is getting old, but the end is in sight.

Monday is my baseline appointment.

The baseline is just what it sounds like—the marker against which all of my future blood work and ultrasounds will be ...

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petri dish

Some people think there might be a petri dish involved in the IVF procedure, while others expect a doctor will insert my husband’s sperm into my uterus. The latter is false and is part of a procedure called an IUI. The former is true.

In vitro fertilization is the process of fertilizing an egg outside the human body. This may occur in either of two ways: by mixing mature eggs and sperm in a petri dish and letting nature take its course or by taking a single sperm and inserting ...

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My parents, sister, and I sat down to play Pinochle (an awesome card game, by the way), and in between winning the bid and playing for tricks, my sister asked, “So, exactly what does IVF entail?”

I thought my family understood the procedure—apparently not.

Why should I be surprised, though? A lot of people do not understand what IVF—in vitro fertilization—is, which is evident from the repetitive misconceptions, assumptions, and questions I hear.

So, ...

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Numbers. They are everywhere.

They float around in my head like balloons precariously tethered to the tip of my mind. They vary in quantities and meanings throughout any given year and there is one for nearly everything you can imagine. Some pop under the pressure, others just slip away.

(A few must be destroyed.)

From travel estimates and account balances to birth dates and gestational milestones, they are all floating around in this noggin of mine right now. ...

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