Bye Bye Pacifier

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I loved the paci, nuk, binky. My little girl loved it more. From the time she came home from the hospital, and wasn’t nursing, she was sucking away on her pacifier, or bink as we fondly referred to it. I never thought about the day we would say good-bye to it. It seemed that it would be long into the future and then I blinked and it was here.

Does your little one love his or her pacifier? Are you concerned they are growing too old for its use?

As my little girl approached toddlerhood, we weaned the use of her paci down a bit. As her language developed, we didn’t want any interference, and so the bink became a naptime or nighttime only option. Well into toddlerhood, I was happy with this compromise.

At 19 months, my little was about to venture into a preschool program. It was a big transition.  It became a bigger transition when, the night before the program began, I got word about the “no pacifiers” during naptime.

My heart raced. I admit it, I panicked.

At first I was angry about just finding this out. Had I missed this information somewhere?

After I simmered down and talked to her teacher-to-be and a few family and friends, I talked myself into believing that I would be okay and SHE would be okay without that pacifier during naptime.

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And she was. Go figure.

The pacifier remained in her toddler bed as she approached 2 ½ years old. The teacher was hinting that it was time to say good-bye to these nuks for good. I was pondering the idea.

Next up, one of our family members was due to welcome a little one into the world.

Thinking about it, I decided to drop the idea that the NEW baby would need a pacifier much more than my little one did these days. No, we weren’t planning on REALLY giving this baby her bink to USE, but it was more about providing the perfect transition for our little girl.

During the first visit from our family, my little girl proudly declared that she was giving her paci to Keegan. She then took the pacifier and brought it to the baby carrier, tucking it beside this little newborn.  I beamed with pride.

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The family left and so did her pacifier.

I told my daughter that it was time to celebrate her achievement of being a big girl. It did not matter that it was nearly bedtime; we were on our way to the local toy store to pick out something special.  
Arriving back home, she was proud and happy. New toy in hand we proceeded to get her ready for bed. 
As we began our bedtime routine, she asked for her paci.

“Um, what?” I stuttered. Obviously, there had been some sort of miscommunication

My dear daughter indeed knew there was more than ONE paci. She simply was requesting paci #2, 3, 4, 5 and so on.

As challenging as it was, I played dumb. I acted oblivious. “What other pacis?”

And, so the story ended. There were a few tears from her, but her purple blanket filled in for that night. 
The paci request lasted a few days.

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It was hard, but I kept consistent. I still haven’t quite let go. Nearly three years later, you’ll find that cup of pacis in my cupboard. And every now and then I bring them down just to hold them once more.

Are you ready to let go of your child’s pacifier?

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Good luck to you AND your little one!

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Bye Bye Pacifier

Jeannie Fleming-Gifford is a mama to one little lady, freelance writer, and the director of education for a non-profit community school of the arts. Graduating with a B.A. in Music and a M.A. in Child Development, Jeannie began her career in quality child development programs as a teacher, then moved into creative administrative roles with science centers, symphony orchestras and arts programs. Owner of 170+ year old house, Jeannie loves living in small town America where walks to the park and ... More

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  1. Profile photo of Julianna Julianna says:

    My first son stopped his himself at the age of one.

    My second loved his binky! I was so nervous about the day I had to take it away. When he turned 2 I refused to buy any new ones. When the last one went missing it was the end. Six months later the last one went missing. He looked for it everywhere but eventually gave up. He never asked for it again. I miss it more than he does. Whenever he cries I still have the instinct to give it to him..

  2. Profile photo of Mom2two12 Mom2two12 says:

    Oops not bin kid lol BINKY* my auto correct on my darn phone 😛

  3. Profile photo of Mom2two12 Mom2two12 says:

    My son loved his!!! I took the bottle away when he turned one and the bin kid away when he turned two.

  4. my nephew lived with me from birth to the day he turned 1. he used the paci only at night and at 5 months no longer cared for it. he would spit it out and throw it as far away from him as he could get it. i hope my son will be the same way.

  5. Profile photo of Angela Angela says:

    My 6 month old has never used a pacifier. She hates it, so luckily i didn’t have to learn how to take it away from her when she will be to old for it!

  6. my little girl uses one to go to sleep at night or naptime. she is 3 months but when she is 1 bye bye pacifier

  7. i dont think you should use a paci…they have been known to disform childrens mouths and teeth…they have also been known to become too much of a soothing element for the child which causes them to not want to give it up when its time…i have a friend whos son is 4yrs,going into preschool this fall and refuses to give up his ninny.

  8. Profile photo of amy wright amy wright says:

    When my son was first born he took wht i called his "binky". That LAst Til He was bout a month old, since then he will not take the binky, if theres no milk coming out the tip he dont want it, lol. so i guess its a good thing, but i decided to throw all the binkys away, he dont need them : )

  9. Profile photo of allie_cat allie_cat says:

    i dont have my child yet but i know that my cousins baby cant go a day with out his pacifier.

  10. never….dont give the option of one and you will never have to fight to take it away..

  11. Profile photo of Zenobiasmom Zenobiasmom says:

    I got my daughter to stop using one, actually…I thought I did. Come to find out her daddy was giving her one AND she had a stash lol..soo unfortunatly she still uses one :/

  12. Profile photo of Christine Christine says:

    i used a pacifier while i breastfed. i got the nuk ones or any pacifier that says" feels like a mothers breast" or something like that.

  13. Profile photo of Christine Christine says:

    My daughter called her pacifier a "mimi" she loved it wouldnt leave the house without it. And if we lost it we were in trouble she would hide them around the house in places only she knows about, so on her 3rd birthday when we took it away from her she would go to those hiding places and next thing i know she has her "mimi" in her mouth. I had to turn the house inside out looking for them and i would hide them so she couldnt see them, I just came across some while cleaning (getting ready for baby number 2) and i started to cry she isnt a baby anymore. We took the pacifier off her cold turkey and she did very well. It was hard for the first couple of days especially at bed time but after a week she forgot all about it.

  14. Profile photo of Anna Anna says:

    When would be a good time to start using a pacifier when you breastfeed?

  15. Profile photo of Heather Heather says:

    My oldest son weaned himself at about 7months, my second son we just got rid of it about 2months ago and he is 3. My youngest is only 4months so I dont have to worry bout that for awhile but overall I feel they willget ridof it willingly when they are ready. We just talked to out son about that he was a big boy and he really didn’t need his "pucky" and then we went away for the weekend and just "forgot" to bring it and he actually did very well by the time we got back home he really did great he only whined a little bit the first night.My mother once told me I have never seen a kid go to kindergarten with one so dont push it. And I really think she was right Jax gave his up when he was ready. But it also wasn’t hindering his speech either. Its kinda like any other thing with kids each one is different and you have to do whats right for your kid. I also did have a little bit of an issue with him getting rid of it cuz it was the last trace of him being my "baby’. now I had to realize he was a big boy!!

  16. Profile photo of Katt Katt says:

    Mine calls his a pow pow!

  17. Profile photo of youngmom92 youngmom92 says:

    It’s interesting reading these comments. I never wanted to give my son a pacifier, but the first night after he was born, the nurse came in with him and said that they gave him one during the night. I wasn’t happy with that, but I should have told them to not use one. He loved the sucking and so we took the one from the hospital, received two more from family, and I bought two more as they were always landing on the floor, nipple down of course. My son self weaned himself a little after 3 and a half months later. I was very thankful I didn’t have to do anything difficult for him.

  18. Profile photo of Angelwings Angelwings says:

    I don’t believe we willing be doing pacis, I had one when I was maybe 3mos but that last all of 30 minutes according to my mom, and hunny never had one, we have watched our friends with their 2yr old’s struggle getting the tots to let go of the paci. Some advice they didn’t use was stay firm with the decision you made

  19. Profile photo of Jessica Jessica says:

    I hope we have an easy time of weaning my son off the pacifier.

  20. Profile photo of Sara McTigue, CLCEditor Sara McTigue, CLC says:

    Ideally, it is suggested not to use a paci when breastfeeding. The sucking can trigger hormones in the stomach that tell baby he isn’t hungry, which might lead to missed feeds or poor weight gain. That being said, once breastfeeding is well established – after 6 weeks or so – you could try using one. Or you might find you don’t need one. My three never were interested.

  21. Profile photo of Leslie Leslie says:

    My daughter hasn’t used her "chupon" (spanish for pacifier) for over a month now. She was a little more than 8 months when she stopped. We only gave it to her when she was crying excessively, but I realized she was falling asleep without it. I even took it out of her mouth when she was sleeping, because I didn’t want her to get too attached to it. Sure she would whine a bit but I’d cuddle her and rock her to sleep. It works. She no longer wants the chupon. We tried giving it to her about 2 weeks ago and she just threw it. I knew either way though she was gonna have to get rid of it before she was one, because I don’t want her teeth to be ruined.

  22. i would let my child have a pacifier if that helped sooth him

  23. Profile photo of nydia rivera nydia rivera says:

    No pacis for us. I kind of wish I had when he was going thru his must nurse every half hour even if I’m full stage, I think he wanted comfort, but I’m glad we didn’t do that, my nephew had a paci for almost 2 years, the neighbor boy for 3(!) and he had a rounded out spot where the paci was!

  24. Profile photo of Kevryn Kevryn says:

    I was really lucky with my oldest. He was never interested in a binky or thumb sucking but he sure does love to chew on Mr. blankie. But my 7 month old loves his binky and his thumb. i am definately not looking forward to the day I have to wean him off of it.

  25. Profile photo of Brittney Brittney says:

    I’m not looking forward to taking my sons binky away, but I have awhile before I’m going to even start that process.

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