9 year-old Gives Birth to a Baby in Mexicochildbirth, in the news
A 9-year-old girl, Dafne, from just outside of Guadalajara, Mexico has given birth to her own baby girl. The baby came into the world January 27th, weighing 5 pounds and 7ounces via C-section due to the mother’s size and age. Dafne was 8-years-old when she got pregnant by a, now, 17-year-old boy.
The authorities are searching for the father because they believe that the girl was raped or abused but the girl’s mother didn’t report the pregnancy to the police because she doesn’t think it’s a crime. Dafne claims that she and the father of her baby are involved in a relationship together. She loves him. They were a couple.
Oddly enough, the boy didn’t know that the girl was pregnant until she did, when she was 7 months pregnant because why would a 9-year-old have any understanding of what a pregnancy feels like? He asked her to move in with him. She said no. He left town. This shows you the level of maturity involved with these children who made this baby.
At 9-years-old, little girls should still be playing with dolls. My oldest daughter is almost 8 and how pregnancy happens is not something that has even been discussed. We’ve not even gotten around to discussing menstruation. She’s not near puberty. She’s still a child; who looks like a child, acts like a child and has the mentality of a child. Boys are not something that my daughter is interested in and sex is not even a blip on the radar.
My daughter knows that no one is supposed to touch her private parts. She knows that babies come from mommies and daddies, after they are married which is something you do after finishing grad school. She knows that girls have vaginas and boys have penises and those are our private parts.
What I’m having a hard time wrapping my mind around is how this girl’s parents, her mother at least, condoned this relationship? Dafne is her little girl. How could she allow an almost grown man to violate her? The mother didn’t even think a crime had been committed. How can she not understand that this is not a consenting relationship because her child is too young to know the difference between loving a man and loving a stuffed animal? This is molestation pure and simple and I think her mother should be put in jail for letting it happen. She failed Dafne as a mother. She did not protect her from her predator.
I understand this is a country with different customs and things are different there. In fact, my father grew up about 2 hours east of Guadalajara. I spent my summers there as a child. I know this area well. It’s not the touristy area that most Americans know of Mexico. It is a very different mentality. My Grandmother got pregnant and married when she was 13. This was in the 1940’s but it wasn’t a crime. No cops were called. She went on to have 8 more children. This is what happened to poor girls; they became mothers. They left their father’s home and became mothers.
I am sad for Dafne and her child. She is too young to be a mother, which means her child will be cheated out of a decent upbringing. Dafne’s life is stalled. She will be this child’s mother forever and because of her belief that this is all okay and her parents allowing this to happen, this will happen again to her.
Dafne and her child have left the safety of the hospital. Before she left the hospital, she was counseled and given a subdermal implant to protect her from becoming pregnant again. The question is who is going to protect Dafne from being violated? Who is going to protect her child from being raised by a child?
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