10 Great Tips for Potty Training Boys
Tuesday, November 6th, 2012
I have potty trained three dudes in my lifetime.
Okay, 2 and a half, because the last one pretty much did the whole thing on his own, under protest from me.
People who read my blog see The Dudes, diaper free and awesome, and immediately seek advice on how they can get their kids out of diapers and into underwear without pulling their heads bald.
So, let me help with that.
10 Great Tips for Potty Training Dudes
without Losing Your Mind in the Process
1. Wait a little. Nothing says your kid has to be toilet trained and working on his memoirs by the time he celebrates his second birthday. And, I know, I know, your mom is brow beating you because you were trained and making your own breakfast by that time. Don’t listen to that noise, because chances are, you weren’t trained, SHE was. To make sure that she rationed your beverage intake and took you to sit on the potty at regularly scheduled intervals. Yes, this strategy works, but it’s also kinda sucky. Wait until your child’s physical and psychological development progress a bit and it will be a more natural process for everyone.
2. Watch the signs. Does your little man have interest in using the potty? Does he talk about it or show any signs of even knowing that there is a special place for that and it’s NOT his diaper?! Kids start to show interest in the potty and what goes down in one when their brains tell them they might be ready to try one out. If your Dude is oblivious to those goings on, it may be a sign that he’s not going to be a potty boss by week’s end.
3. No potty, no pants. We spent a lot of time sans pants while potty training. Having a visual on, um, things allowed me to more easily note when things were about to pop off and it helped them be more aware of things too. At our house, when you entered Potty Training Camp (see below), you also relinquished your right to wear pants unless otherwise noted.
4. Get the right tools. I am a huge proponent of using good old fashion cotton undies from the start. I didn’t use Pull-ups to train any of my Dudes because, when you break it down, Pull Ups are really just elastic waisted diapers. The Dudes could be comfy with knowing that they could just pee their Pull-Up and no one would be any the wiser. Even the “feeling” ones didn’t bother them enough to make them stop it. There is something about standing in a puddle of your own urine that many kids just don’t enjoy, making it an experience they actively want to avoid duplicating. We certainly used Pull-ups when we went out of the house. But at home it was all undies (or nothing) all the time.
5. Host a Potty Training Camp. Every time I potty trained a Dude I devoted a week to the effort. One week of hardcore trying: going commando, following them around the house with a a wad of paper towels and a bottle of disinfectant in hand, and keeping the eagle eye trained on them for any signs of squatting. If, at the end of said week, potty trainee was still actively avoiding the throne or just peeing on my floor to spite me, we’d throw in the towel, literally, and leave them alone about it for a couple of months.
6. Ask for help. Dudes learn dude stuff easiest from other dudes. Get dad (or another male relative you trust) to take your little guy into the potty a few times and show him the learn-how-to-pee-like-a-man ropes. It’s amazing how fascinated little guys get when they learn that THAT can do THAT once they’ve witnessed it. Everything mom has going on in the bathroom is just soooo much less interesting.
7. Don’t get caught up in the gimmicks. Probably that annoying Elmo potty movie won’t work, and all of those potty for a sticker or a chocolate or whatever won’t either, so why bother torturing yourself? Your kid is going to pee in the potty when you are consistent and he is ready, that’s basically all there is to it.
8. Ignore trash talkers. Even if that trash talker is your own mama. Refer to #7 to see why what they say about you and your baby really doesn’t even matter.
9. Keep it positive. No one wants to grow up with a potty complex.
10. Chillax already. You know how when you were trying to get pregnant and everyone was all, “Hey, calm down and stop thinking about it and then you’ll get pregnant!”? And you were all, “Shut up, like I can even do that! It’s all I think about!”? But sure enough, the day you stopped obsessing about it, you peed on a stick, and voila, baby on board! This sorta works just like that, and yeah, you will do that same happy dance the first time your kid makes in the pot, you just will.
Need more help? Pop over to my blog today to see some great potty training tips from other Dude Moms!