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A New Baby with a New Daddy
Author: Melanie Denney
Wondering how your first child will handle the addition of a new baby to the family is most likely a frequent thought that crosses your mind. These thoughts might intensify if your first child is from a previous partner. Do you fear that he or she might have feelings of jealousy or neglect?
Parents tend to put most of their focus on the upcoming arrival of the unborn baby. It’s understandable; there’s much to prepare for! But amongst all this preparing, your other little one notices the focus is on someone else and is more likely to feel neglected. It’s amazing how much children pick up on, no matter how young they are. They’re very observant little beings, so involve them in the planning process, and educate them as well. Help them know that they are an important part of the family too by giving them a responsibility.
Educating your first child on babies is a good way to let him know he is relevant. Maybe something as simple as getting him a baby doll, and teaching him to take care of it, will work for you. Reading books about babies is always helpful, and it gives you a chance to bond with your first child. Answer any age-appropriate inquiries you can – if the questions come up. Continue building communication skills and trust by just talking to him, asking him how he feels, what his opinions are, and even for simple advice. Kids love to give advice!
When making up a new room for the baby, let your child help you. If you need to paint, take a trip to the paint store, just you and your little sidekick, and have lunch somewhere while mulling over the paint chips and let her choose a color too. Whatever you need to do to the baby’s space, let your child help in some way. Also, it’s important that you make her feel like she’s got a space of her own, too. As parents, we need to spend a little time in our special place once in a while, and kiddos need that time too; so whether it’s a cool new paint job, or a tent made out of a hula-hoop and a sheet, make sure that she gets a little effort put in her personal space.
Prepare yourself, too. Your child might act up more, do things out of the normal, and become withdrawn or super emotional. It may take a conscious effort to remember, but understand that it is normal for children to react to big changes.
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