5 Biggest Discipline Mistakes Parents Make

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By Victoria Scanlan Stefanakos for Healthy Kids from Teeth to Feet

To many parents, discipline equals punishment. “It’s an urban myth passed down from earlier generations, before we had scientific research,” says Michele Borba, an internationally recognized expert on parenting, moral development and character education, and the author of No More Misbehavin’: 38 Difficult Behaviors and How to Stop Them.

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Discipline is really about teaching kids the right way to behave. “Behavior is learned, so it can be unlearned,” says Borba.

Before you can change your kids’ behavior, you need to know three things:

  1. How to stop actions you don’t approve of
  2. What you want your kids to do instead
  3. Why it’s important

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5 Biggest Discipline Mistakes Parents Make

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  1. Profile photo of LIZ says:

    very good article im gonna put this in practice

  2. Profile photo of KaelinRae KaelinRae says:

    Thank you for the advice :)

  3. Profile photo of KaelinRae KaelinRae says:

    You also try selling Mary Kay, though Avon is a little more affordable. Or hosting Pampered Chef parties.

  4. Profile photo of Hipmom808 Hipmom808 says:

    I am a stay at home mom, for extra income I sell Avon on the side and I love to go thrift store hunting for name brand items and resell it for a higher price on eBay or Craigslist.

  5. Profile photo of kinome kinome says:

    Could someone please tell me if they have real at home jobs for mother! I am having my first baby in April and I don’t want to leave my baby the first 6 months! But I would still like to have an income. Are there any legit work at home jobs?

  6. Profile photo of alisha alisha says:

    Im bad about not sticking to what I say like saying "no food in your room" and the next day take her food in there!! But get mad everytime I clean her room and find food everywhere. Sometimes as parents we make things harder on ourself in the long run for a quick solution at the time.

  7. my one year listen’s better then my two year old…..but my son is very hyperactive and doesn’t like to listen he’ll hit or tell you no….i don’t know hwo to stop it:(

  8. Profile photo of Kevryn Kevryn says:

    My one downfall is I always ask my two year old OK? after I talk to him

  9. Profile photo of hbetz hbetz says:

    I like the idea of substituting new behaviors instead of just saying what not to do.

  10. Profile photo of Danielle Danielle says:

    good points! love the idea of making sure to provide a positive substitute behavior.

  11. Profile photo of Portia27 Portia27 says:

    Nothing is wrong with you… It is wanting to do it right and being able to have more access to previous knowledge. We have more ways of it becoming readily available than our parents and grandparents did

  12. Profile photo of Sasoo Sasoo says:

    My parents didn’t do this much reading :-/ what’s wrong with me??!!

  13. Profile photo of Anna Jones Anna Jones says:

    I want my children to be respectful and polite. This article has a lot of tips to help my goal!