10 Ways to Develop Your Child’s Self-Esteem

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Self-esteem is developed much like anything else in our lives: over time. 

Four-eyes! Fatso! @&#*$!

It’s not uncommon to hear things like this if you venture onto your child’s playground. Kids, and the world at large, can be cruel. Self-esteem can be the thing that creates a buffer of resilience between your child and this cruelty. It also allows him or her to face the struggles of life and succeed.

Countless studies, books, and articles suggest that top leaders and successful people share the trait of “confidence,” or the ability to believe you can do it. The characteristic of seeing genuine value and believing in yourself is irreplaceable. Robert Reasoner, President of the International Council for Self Esteem, reports that kids who feel good about themselves have higher academic achievements and better interpersonal relationships. They also have less criminal and violent behaviors, eating disorders, teenage pregnancy, depression, and suicide.

Self-esteem is developed much like anything else in our lives: over time. It’s not a shot in the arm, given along with other vaccinations, but an internal feeling that waxes and wanes as it is strengthened or weakened throughout life.

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Healthy or Unhealthy Self-Esteem: What Does It Look Like?
Children with healthy self-esteem often have many varied interests and show interest in others. They are optimistic about outcomes. They do not degrade themselves or discount their achievements with words like, “I’m such a moron,” or “I never do anything right.” When they meet a challenge, they assertively seek help or engage their little engine that could… “I think I can! I think I can!”

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  1. Profile photo of Stephanie Stephanie says:

    This is good advice

  2. Profile photo of LIZ says:

    good article, my parents did most of these things with me and i feel very confident as an adult with myself

  3. Profile photo of Andy Andy says:

    I know that people say things they don’t mean. It probably happens much more than is healthy but these ten things are things to shoot for as a parent. We’ll fall short but that is what “sorry” and “let’s try again” is for. Thanks for all the comments everyone!

  4. Profile photo of Dario Dario says:

    Oh time will definitely be made

  5. great read….will be keeping this in mind when my child is going through something

  6. Profile photo of Grace Grace says:

    people blurt out things they do not mean, at least thats what i’m telling myself here- although the thought of even calling your own child anything foul is just awlful

  7. Profile photo of Grace Grace says:

    love this article!

  8. who would call their child "fat" because their irritated with that. that’s sick.

  9. some of these facts i honeslty would have never thought of, some good advice.